It is not hard to contemplate that a lot of effort is required to make a relationship work and last and anyone who has been a part of one will completely agree. Even though most people agree that they need to add a little special something, most people really do not actually know what that special something is.
There are plenty of things that a couple can do to strengthen their bond in ways unimaginable and all they need is some guidance. The purpose of that is exactly that, providing couples with some extremely important tips that will undoubtedly lead them down a road that depicts nothing but a prosperous and happy future with your current or future partner.
1. Hey honey how are you?
A tip that most couples overlook is calling your partner in the middle of the day to simply say hello. This is a great gesture that lets the other know the you are still thinking about them, regardless of the fact that you just met each other a couple of hours ago. Do not think of this as one of those calls that is making sure that you are actually, where you are supposed to be. One of the biggest problems with people is miscommunication and not understanding the real meaning behind certain behaviors. Therefore, it is vital that couples look at certain things positively and consider them nice gestures. Maybe you can even share a nice little laugh in between the short call, because we all know how important laughter can be for our health and relationship.
2. Communicate
While this may seem like a given, it’s amazing to me how little time the average couples spends communicating. Of course there is the usual chit chat and “how was your day dear?” kind of banter but getting down to the heart of it, real communication means infinitely more. If there is something that has been bothering you or an area of the relationship that is making you unhappy, simply ignoring it isn’t going to do the trick. Its best when the other person in the relationship knows these concerns so that you can work on a solution together and hopefully keep the situation from getting out of hand. Even if things are great in the relationship, spending quality time discussing more in depth topics is a way for you to channel and heighten your emotional intimacy.
3. Make Time For You
Too many times in relationships, couples forget that they need their own space and end up compromising their own interests which of course leads to unhappiness down the road. Of course there is that beginning “honeymoon phase” in any relationship where it seems that nothing else matters except for the other person but…hate to be the bearer of bad news…that part fades. But like everything else in life, change isn’t always a bad thing. Relationships transition and once they do, you will find yourself missing the friends, hobbies and other activities that you may have momentarily cast aside. Rediscover these interests and a little space will not only improve your relationship but also allow you to enjoy the things that make you who you are!
4. Complement One Another
It doesn’t matter if you have been together 10 weeks or 10 years, complements don’t get old. It’s all too easy to get drawn into that lull of “comfort” (which is a great place to be) but since you are not only best friends but lovers too, it’s important to take the time to make each other feel special. While many of us are quick to point out flaws, we aren’t as quick to dish out complements. Take time to tell you partner you appreciate them and help boost their strengths. Everyone enjoys feeling like they have been recognized for all the good they have done, whether this means making a wonderful romantic dinner or spending 30 extra minutes to get ready to go somewhere.
5. Get Somewhere Together
There is something magical about vacation. As kids we play in the sand, frolic in the waves and go to bed exhausted and happy. It’s important to take time out from the stress of work or of raising a family and to reconnect in a new and exciting place. No matter what your budget, set money aside for a weekend getaway every now and then.
If a relationship consists of “all work and no play,” it’s one that will have a relatively short shelf life. Yes, we are creatures of habit but this doesn’t mean we don’t enjoy a break from the routine ever now and again!
6. Compromise
At last, the one thing that seems so simple but really is hard to master is the art of compromise. Nothing is harder than really believing you are right and having to give up at least part of your battle for the sake of the relationship. There is of course a time to stand up for what you believe in and accept no less than you deserve, but when it comes to maintaining a harmonious relationship, a little bit of compromise can go a long way.
7. A little compliment goes a long way
And lastly, don’t be afraid to complement one another. People just don’t understand how much even a silly little compliment can boost the morale of an individual. For example, tell your man how great his handyman skills are, even if they aren’t, but make sure that you sound serious enough so that he doesn’t think that you are ridiculing him.
Trust me, if you can make your man believe that he is unmatchable in handling that hammer or screwdriver he will not only always be willing to fix things around the house, but might actually turn into a real good handyman. These are three simple tips that most people don’t pay attention to, but can make all the difference in strengthening a relationship.
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